Is your partner or spouse cheating on you?
One of the most frequently asked questions of a private investigator is ‘can you find out if my girlfriend/wife/ boyfriend/husband/partner/spouse is cheating on me’. Many people in long-term and settled relationships can find themselves in circumstances where they feel, for whatever reason, that their partner may be cheating on them.
Probably the worst part of this situation is simply not knowing, and that’s where we help. Luckily, many of the cases we are asked to investigate simply result in a report for the client which says that their partner is entirely faithful. In some cases we’ve found that their behaviour change is because they are planning a surprise for their partner!
Unfortunately this is not always true.
So what should you do if you think your partner is cheating on you?
The first step is to call us on 0800 14 55 123 and tell us your concerns. We will listen to you and help you to decide what to do next. Calls are free from a landline and also from a mobile on 03450 178 100 and we will give you a free assessment of what is needed and how much it will cost.
Why do you think your partner is cheating on you?
Many people call us when they simply have a ‘feeling’ or ‘gut instinct’ that their partner is being unfaithful. This can range from marital infidelity to a girlfriend or boyfriend seeing another person but whatever the circumstances it can be emotionally damaging. Often there are a number of tell tale signs which at first are ignored, but as time goes on they accumulate and raise suspicions.
We covered the most frequently visible signs when a partner is cheating in a previous article http://www.investigate.uk/how-to-spot-a-cheating-partner but if you haven’t read this then here are the key things to look for.
Your partner seems to lose interest in you and your relationship
Now this in itself isn’t a sure fire sign that they are cheating on you, after all we know that as relationships develop people start to take their partner for granted and can sometimes simply be focusing their attention elsewhere. It’s all too easy to have your head turned by a simple bit of flattery. It can however be a first sign that all is not well, when they don’t want to spend time with you or even talk to you and are preoccupied with something or someone else.
This often manifests itself in them becoming angry towards you for no apparent reason and aiming cruel comments at you for no particular reason. Sometimes this can lead to emotional and physical abuse and more often than not this is simply a coping mechanism as they know that they are in the wrong but are looking to deflect blame elsewhere. A reaction from you to their behaviour could help them justify why they don’t want to be with you any more.
Changes in routine
Often a give-away sign, this is one of the most obvious signs. Your partner suddenly seems to have to stay late at work more often, or they need to go out more than they used to. Excuses can range from needing to get fresh air, going to the gym more frequently and taking up a hobby that requires then to be out for considerable periods of time, to simply needing to do extra shifts at work, stay later to finish off work and work extra hours at unusual times.
A husband suddenly taking more pride in his appearance, or a wife showering and wearing perfume more frequently can be an indicator that something is wrong. Typically this will manifest itself in a change in grooming habits, a sudden change in their wardrobe, fashion and appearance and possibly a drive to improve their personal fitness. Any or all of these can be a sign that your partner is cheating on you.
The onset of facebook, friends re-united, easy to setup email account and mobile phones, now give endless opportunity. A sure sign of cheating is passwords being changed , mobile phones being hidden or even pin code protected and internet history being deleted
The most frequent and obvious of these changes is that way people react to members of the opposite sex however it can sometimes be the way they behave towards members of the same sex. Typically partners will become more flirtatious with other people and their attitude changes so they would appear, to someone who has never met them before, as if they are single.
Now clearly some or all of these behavioural changes may be nothing more than your partner taking an interest in their own appearance and looking to improve their lives with you, rather than without you, however when two or more of these signs are present it can often be that they are attracted to someone other than you. Catching your partner cheating is often quite difficult, particularly if you have a family as finding the time or resources to follow them without being seen is almost impossible.
At Insight we have over 30 years’ experience in handling matrimonial investigations and understand completely not only how distressing this could be for you but also how we need to handle this sensitive situation. We have both male and female investigators who are experts in matrimonial investigations and can help you through this time.
Of course, not all the signs explained here are positive signs of a cheating partner, they could indicate other traits brought about by pressure from work, financial problems or a multitude of possible cases. Insight Investigations will examine the matter for you discreetly and provide you with whatever the truth is and the evidence you need to make an informed decision.
So if you want to find out for sure whether your partner is cheating on you then simply call us today on 0800 14 55 123 and let us help you.